potato, potahto, "Let's Call the Whole Thing Off"

Do you know the song "Let's call the whole thing off" by George and Ira Gershwin?

"You like potato, I like potahto
You like tomato, I like tomahto
Potato, potahto, tomato, tomahto
Let's call the whole thing off."

In this song a couple is arguing about how to pronounce words. This argument is apparently so serious that they are going to break up! This is a great example of all or nothing thinking and a lack of flexiblility. Please only argue about important things. I talk to couples who argue about how to load the dishwasher or what is the best laundry detergent to buy. These arguments cause real problems.

Try to focus on what is really important. Remember, do you want to be married or do you want to be right?

I was thinking about couples who argue a lot. Sometimes they argue about things that are small, or as they say, "stupid." The problem is that these little things mean more than what they seem. There is usually a meaning behind the argument.

If you can figure out the meaning then you can resolve the problem instead of arguing about a topic.