Sunday, October 3, 2010

Be Heart Smart: Avoiding Unhealthy Relationships Part 3

Here is another myth that needs to be debunked.  No one can read your mind! I have heard many people say, "He should know what I want by now. We have been together a long time." Or, "If she loved me she would know what to do. I shouldn't have to say anything." This is complete hooey. No one knows what you're thinking except you. If you want a loved one to know what you want, then tell them.

I have also heard people say, "I don't want to say what I want for my birthday or Christmas because it isn't as special if I tell them what gift to get me." Well, if you like surprises, that's  fine.  But then don't tell your partner that they have gotten you the wrong thing. Just tell them what you want in the first place and everyone will be happy.

I heard on the radio today the song "Can You Read My Mind?" from the movie Superman. This is a great sentiment if your boyfriend actually IS Superman. Lois Lane has it good, but for the rest of us mere mortals it's better to speak our minds.

If you have trouble being assertive, give me a call. I would be happy to talk with you about this.

By the way, I really like Superman. I think he's dreamy, don't you?

Superman: 4 Film Favorites (Superman The Movie / Superman II / Superman III / Superman IV The Quest for Peace) DVD


  1. Angela,
    I had to laugh when I read this. I am guilty of doing just this in the past. I've since learned to speak up and actually state my wishes or thoughts. It's made for a much better relationship. Totally spot on here!
    Val :)

  2. Angela,
    I need to get my wife to read this. She always tell me...I don't want anything for my birthday. AND I know that she is just saying that. I wish I could get her to just tell me so we both would be happy.

    Thanks for sharing. I will send my wife here:)

  3. Angela, you are so right here, it is very hard to read peoples mind. I am with Val on this one, we need to speak up or usually be disappointed. DR

  4. Angela - I love this post and yes Superman is dreamy:) I have to admit I've been guilty of the "my husband should know what I mean" scenario a few times. You are so right that no one can read our minds and we need to remember that!

  5. Glyna,
    I think we have all been guilty of the mind reading idea at one time or another. Glad you agree with me about Superman.